Thinking about getting married in our Church? Congratulations!
A wedding is one of life’s great moments, a time of solemn commitment as well as good
wishes, feasting and joy. St John tells us how Jesus shared in such an occasion at Cana
and gave there a sign of new beginnings as he turned water into wine.
Marriage is intended by God to be a creative relationship, as his blessing enables husband and
wife to love and support each other in good times and in bad, and to share in the care and
upbringing of children. For Christians, marriage is also an invitation to share life together in
the spirit of Jesus Christ. It is based upon a solemn, public and life-long covenant between a man and a woman, declared
and celebrated in the presence of God and before witnesses.
On their wedding day the bride and bridegroom make special promises before God and in the presence of their family and friends ‘to love, comfort, honour and protect’ each other, and ‘forsaking all others be faithful to each other for as long as they both shall live’. To be married is not only a great joy and celebration but the start of a real adventure requiring steadfast love and commitment. It has therefore not only our loving prayer and support but God’s blessing too. We give you our hearty congratulations and wish you well as you step into married life together.
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13.4-7
If you wish to take things further.... things you need to know!
To be married in Church both Bride and Bridegroom must be over 16 years of age and if under 18 have their parents’ consent.
Weddings can take place on any day (but not usually Sunday) between 8.00am and 6.00pm and either the Bride or the Bridegroom must normally either live in the parish or be on the ‘Electoral Roll’ of our church, or have another ‘qualifying connection’ or association with the parish (e.g. used to live in the parish or have parents that either do or have done so).
If you feel that you have a qualifying connection but aren’t quite sure then please contact Stephen (our Rector) who will be pleased to help you.
What must I do now?
Make an appointment with Stephen to discuss things further and provisionally book the date.
The Revd Stephen Thorp, The Rectory, School Road, Necton, Norfolk. PE37 8HT
Tel: 01760 722021
Come along to a service.
Naturally to get married in Church is to expect a religious service, it would therefore be very appropriate and indeed useful to make yourself known to us at church, for not only do we have people who can help you with your wedding (play the organ, arrange flowers etc) but it also help us to prayerfully support you as you prepare for your wedding day and married life together. Part of the usual wedding process is also the ‘Calling of Banns’ which is a public and legal announcement of your intention to get married. By coming to church you not only get the chance to see what we are like, but also to hear your banns called and ask any questions you might have.
Consider what music, hymns and Bible reading you need and prepare an Order of Service. Stephen can help you with this and you can find some guidance and helpful resources below:
Make a date for a rehearsal and the payment of fees.
It’s essential to have a practice in the church building, to calm the nerves and sort out any last minute problems. Stephen will advise you as to the current costs.
And finally a prayer ...
God of love, we thank you for the gift of marriage and for the joys it brings.
Bless us as we prepare for our wedding day.
We thank you for the love which has brought us together and for the desire to share it for the rest of our lives;
through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.